Blog
Coronavirus, Quarantine and Porn
Although it’s become somewhat of a joke (what else are people supposed to do locked up in their houses?), there’s no denying the reality: porn-watching has become even more of an American pastime right now as we all seek ways to occupy our time sheltering at home. Many porn sites have reported huge increases in traffic, and one has even offered its premium service free …
Coronavirus: Other Things to Talk About
Inevitably, we’re talking about the coronavirus. How can we not? We all have questions, we’re concerned, and a lot of us are, frankly, getting tired of the work it takes to stay happy and focused in a time like this. In the middle of that, it seems almost impossible not to talk about the coronavirus because right now, it’s the topic dominating most of our minds.
But what do we do when the corona virus conversation just gets to be too much? It can happen to anyone at any time and as with anything else, it’s perfectly okay to say “I’m sorry. I don’t want to/can’t do this right now. I need to change it up.” Here’s a great list of 80 other things to talk about while we all shelter i place. …
Staying Home and Staying Sane
This isn’t easy for any of us. If staying at home is bringing new challenges to your relationship, I’m here to help, too. How are you handling the times? I’d love to hear from you, and if I can be of assistance to you right now, please reach out. …
Social Distancing and Intimacy
It may seem strange to talk of intimacy and connection when work and social engagements are being canceled and we’re being asked to distance ourselves from each other. If we are still working, likely we’re doing that at home, feeling isolated or spending a lot more time with each other than we normally do. What does this mean for staying connected to those we love? How do we maintain the intimacy in our relationships right now? We may need to learn new language to express our feelings, our need for personal space and quiet time, or our longing for connection and intimacy. …
Right there, that’s the (G) Spot!
The G-Spot isn’t something you go for right away. For women especially, being in a high state of arousal prior to stimulating the G-Spot is really important or she might feel discomfort instead of pleasure, if she feels anything at all. It’s not something you can just jump right into – set aside at least an hour to play and explore, and enjoy the process without attachment to outcome. Are you ready to explore? Here are some tips on how to stimulate the G-Spot. …
Getting to the G-Spot
Likely, the G-Spot has been known for centuries, but it’s named after gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg. More of an area than a “spot,” it can be found on the upper back wall of the vagina. Considered part of the clitoral network, it’s a highly sensitive area for many women and stimulating this area can be incredibly arousing. Learn more about yours! …
A Valentine’s Day Staycation
This year, Valentine’s Day falls on a three-day weekend. For some, a long weekend and a holiday centered on romance equals only one thing: getting away. For others, it means hiding out at home – and that’s okay, too. Better than okay. If the idea of crowds, restaurants, public romance, and pink everywhere isn’t your thing, or if Valentine’s Day has found you home alone on the couch petting the cat, it’s a good time to retreat. Literally. Book a Valentine’s Day staycation and cozy up. …
Identifying your Core Erotic Themes
If you know what your or your partner’s core erotic themes(s) are, you’re going to have sex that is a lot more personal — so it’s less about what activities you’ll do and also more about how you want to feel. Knowing your core erotic themes means knowing what you want and need to be fully present in a sexual encounter, and it also builds intimacy between partners that can’t necessarily happen just by knowing what physical buttons to press. Identifying them can be a transformational experience. What are yours? …
Sex and Marriage: Where’s the Sex? (Part 2)
Last week, I wrote about the all-too-common occurrence of sexless marriage, defined as a marriage (or relationship) in which there are low levels of sexual intimacy, generally less than ten times a year. While sure, there are some well-matched people who are okay with a low level of sex in their partnerships, for many, a sexless marriage is not something they ever expected to find themselves in. For them, it’s a great cause for concern and can places a great deal of stress on the relationship and encourage feelings of loneliness, shame, fear, and even self-hatred.
This week we’ll talk about ways in which to address and work with some of the most common things that can bring about a sexless marriage. Again, please know that this is a frequent reason why couples often seek out my services. If your marriage is sexless, you are not alone. …
Bringing Sexy Back: Reviving a Sexless Marriage (Part 1)
Marriage without sex? Yes, it happens. Sexless marriage is one of the most common reasons couples come to work with me, and if you’re in one, you’re not alone — numerous recent studies from the past few years have shown that at least 15-20% of all marriages in the US are sexless — but the good news is that there are some practical solutions to bringing the sexy back! …