Is sex a good Father’s Day gift? If it’s consensual, sure.
So, you bought the lingerie, you’ve stashed some candles and massage oil (and maybe lined up a sitter for the evening if you have children). But are you in the mood?
This is the important thing, especially when it comes to a gift like this. Sex is a beautiful way for couples to connect, and it’s an intimate act that needs to be consensual – meaning that both partners want to have sex, and that it isn’t done out of a sense of duty or obligation. Feeling like you owe a partner sex can create feelings of resentment. It’s hard to foster genuine desire in that kind of environment, and it can also bring new challenges to deepening intimacy.
So, sex for Father’s Day – yay or nay?
Again, if it’s consensual, get to it and enjoy celebrating dad on his special day. But if you’re not (or not yet sure you’re) in the mood, you can still treat dad to some good loving on Father’s Day. Set aside time for an activity you enjoy that you know he loves to do – his enthusiasm and happiness might spark your desire. Plan a date night and time for the two of you – there are many ways to enjoy time together that don’t have to involve sex if you aren’t in the mood. Offer him some loving touch, maybe a massage. And communicate. Communication is the foundation of true intimacy and a loving partnership. And, it’s also a great way to stoke passion, too!
Note: this goes for Holiday sex, too.
Do you feel like you “owe” your partner sex? Do you find yourself tolerating ” obligatory” sex to pacify your partner or to circumvent an argument? Are you struggling with how to communicate or to reignite your desire? Or are you looking for new and creative ways to celebrate Father’s Day with the one you love? Talk to me. I’m here to help.