A great jam band knows how to communicate.
Great sex, like great music, has soul, and soul comes from hearing and feeling each other and what you’re creating together. Just because you bring your instrument doesn’t mean you’re ready or willing to play – jamming sexually with a partner is like playing in a great jam band: it’s consensual, and it only happens when everyone is into it. Soul is what comes from agreeing to surrender to the music you make together and isn’t something that can be forced. Check out this brilliant video by sex educator Karen B. K. Chan, a proposal for “a different way about how we think about sex.” It’s simple, concise, inspiring and funny! …and it’s true: to really honor the life-affirming experience of “jamming” we have to be willing to listen to the cues – not just when we begin, but all the way through. Rock on!
Whether you’re playing in a jam band or having sex, it can be a lot of fun when you come together and agree to play. It requires listening, communication, and practice. Practice by yourself, practice with each other and before long, you’ll be playing together in key. If you’re looking to learn or improve your skills, get in touch. Let’s fine-tune those instruments and learn to play by ear, and get into the soul of jamming.