Kink 101: An Introduction to BDSM
Many people think of kink as “whips and chains” but in reality, it can be a very loving exchange between two consenting adults who wish to explore their sexual fantasies in a safe, sane and consensual space, with a profound respect for boundaries.
My practice is kink-friendly, meaning that I often work with people who are into “unconventional sex practices”, or curious about the world of kink and BDSM. Kink can be an incredibly intimate way to get to know your partner in a whole new way and no, it doesn’t always involve “whips and chains.” Kink is also a lot about enacting fantasies, examining personal taboos, role play, and power exchange (dominance and submission, the “D” and “S” in BDSM).
Working with kink-curious clients, we create space together that encourages communication and healthy exploration (“healthy” being the key word here – as I mentioned before, BDSM exploration requires a clear understanding of consent, communication and boundaries, and also a safe, sane space free of judgment and shame. Trust means everything when it comes to a pleasurable and empowering kinky experience). For couples, exploring kink and BDSM can help foster communication and intimacy, bring new excitement to a sexual partnership and even bring about healing as you reach new levels of trust, confidence and surrender.
Here’s a basic introduction to Kink 101. I also have a great list of books on my recommended resources page. If you’d like to know how to begin exploring kink and BDSM in your relationship, talk to a kink-friendly sex coach.