What’s the first thing you think of when you think of “male desire”?
A Canadian research project is breaking up stereotypes about male desire and redefining social expectations, and the work is proving extremely valuable, especially for couples addressing relationship challenges like desire discrepancy.
We often assume that men are constantly turned on and ready to go, that their sexuality is separate from their desires to be intimate and feel a sense of connection, and this is not necessarily true. It turns out that there’s a lot more emotion involved than what is often attributed to men, and they need to express it.
While it’s true that there are some differences between male and female arousal cycles, men and women share a lot of the same concerns and work with many of the same challenges when it comes to expressing themselves. Venus and Mars aren’t, as it turns out, always that far apart.
Read this in-depth article about male desire here – likely, you’ll be surprised by some of the findings of this study! You might also be interested in this article from esteemed psychotherapist Esther Perel, in which she discusses the similarities between male and female sexuality.
Are you working with desire discrepancy in your relationship? Do you want to understand your own or your partner’s sex and intimacy needs better? When we learn to express our emotions and ask for what we want and need, desire discrepancy becomes much less of an issue and pleasure and connection step to the front, where they belong. Let’s talk.