We live in a time where technology is advancing faster than we could have possibly imagined. These innovations reach far beyond just our phones, tablets and cars. As technology improves in our day-to-day lives, so does Sex Technology, or as it is aptly called … SEXTECH!
Sextech isn’t necessarily new, but because of the taboos associated with sex, it’s still at an early stage. Sexuality is such a natural part of our lives as humans, and yet it is often shrouded in shame and embarrassment. Because of this, many of us avoid discussing sex all together. We may be reluctant to explore intimate experiences that could offer us deeper satisfaction and sexual pleasure.
It is for this exact reason that Sextech is so essential! It helps break down these societal barriers, inching us towards a more open attitude. Sextech brings a sexual component to some very well-known technological, entrepreneurial services and products that many of us are already familiar with. Sexuality affects us all, which means that the possibilities and advancements in Sex Technology are endless.
Here are just a few of the Sextech tastemakers that are shaping the industry for the better:
Airbnb & Kink = Kinkbnb
Not everyone has access to or can afford a kink-exploration space of their own. The creators of Kinkbnb saw that need and created something truly unique. Kinkbnb blends this niche in the market with the rental model of Airbnb, allowing people to rent private kinky dungeon getaways. We all know that couples often have more sex on vacation. Time away from your familiar environment is:
- Sexy, exciting and fun
- Free from your regular routine, chores and familiar distractions
- The novelty of a new environment to explore a unique experience with your partner
With Kinkbnb, you have the benefit of a fully-equipped professional dungeon with all the bells and whistles (and floggers, and handcuffs, and ….).
A few tips for your Kinkbnb adventure: Enjoy the simmering build-up of planning your sexy getaway or adventure date. Anticipation is a major turn-on for many folks. You can use Kinkbnb to set aside time with your lover and leave the responsibilities of work and family life at home. Bring some favorite music, toys, lubes, massage lotions, sexy outfits, or lingerie with you! Consider going offline with phones and social media and online with each other!
Better Than Sexting
Intimacy takes commitment, so imagine how difficult it can be for long-distance relationships! While sexting can be fun, for some couples, sexting just isn’t enough. Vibease allows couples to shake up the geographical divide using a Vibease Remote Control Bluetooth Vibrator.
This Vibease vibrator is a comfortable, wearable Bluetooth vibrator that women can discreetly wear whenever and wherever they want. This toy is designed for maximum pleasure and discretion. And BONUS, it connects to a special app that allows your partner to control your toy from anywhere!
Vibease is great for power play, connection, long-distance turn-ons, and surrendering your pleasure to your partner’s control. It’s fun, sexy, and creates playful anticipation for your in-person rendezvous! It’s an innovative toy that definitely “goes the distance” !
Trip Advisor Meets Playtime
Websites like TripAdvisor completely revolutionized the hotel industry, yet failed to realize a massive untapped sexy market. Mr. and Mrs. Smith hopes to pick up the slack and succeed where other hotel review sites fall short. This hot biz helps people find hotels that are specifically great for sex.
Mr. and Mrs. Smith began with just one couple hoping to find the best places for a romantic getaway. Since then, it has become a comprehensive online directory with hotel listings in hundreds of companies and boasting over a million members. The team at Mr. and Mrs. Smith visit each hotel themselves to ensure you only see the very best accommodations from the most trustworthy experts., All locations are reviewed anonymously and included in the site collection by invite-only from the Mr. and Mrs. Smith team!
Their sexy roster includes hotels with awesome beds, tastefully and sensually decorated rooms to spice up your lovemaking experience.These rooms come with everything you need, minus all the distractions. Try staying off the grid, soaking in the jacuzzi tub together, or scheduling a couple’s massage in the privacy of your designer hotel room before getting frisky with each other!
Telehealth Masterclass App
During the pandemic, telehealth became the norm for many households. Lover seeks to do the same for your sexual health and wellness! Some folks initially feel shy about talking to a sex coach or sex therapist and might feel more comfortable doing a little online research through an app first. The Lover App is a great place to start and explore what you’d like to work on or simply find answers to commonly asked questions.
Here are a few other options for online resources to help begin your sexual journey!
- SFSI (San Francisco Sex information)
- Scarlateen (for teens)
- And be sure to visit my Resources page for even more online support!
Social Media and Ethical Porn
Cindy Gallop gave a TED talk in 2009 about the current porn industry’s ethical problems. She bravely shared her personal experiences in the context of the effect of technology on our sex lives. As a response, Gallop launched MakeLoveNotPorn, a revenue-sharing business model for porn that is curated, ethical, and safe for all involved. MakeLoveNotPorn features REAL PEOPLE in REAL sexual situations, rather than highly-stylized and scripted performance porn While porn can certainly be hot, sexy, and arousing, it isn’t realistic and can skew the viewer’s idea of what sex and intimacy look like in real relationships. Porn is just acting and directed by a movie producer for profit. It’s not real, and it does not represent real sex in real relationships with real people.
MakeLoveNotPorn strives to be more authentic by representing situations that don’t always follow the scripted linear trajectory of sequences, that inevitably lead to PIV (intercourse) or orgasms. MLNP offers the viewer pleasure-based sex rather than performance-based sex. This helps diminish misleading or unhelpful beliefs about what sex is “supposed” to look like. It encourages viewers to find what works for them. There is no “standard normal” in sex, only what’s normal for you and feels good to YOU!
These companies are just a small sampling of the kinds of products, websites, and technologies that the Sextech industry is creating every day. As the way we experience pleasure evolves, sexual business technology will grow right alongside it. The forward motion of Sextech will only continue to gather steam, creating sexy new and exciting innovations to look forward to in the future!
If you would like to learn more about your own sexuality, have challenges you need support with or your curious about how Sex Coaching can help you, please to reach out!