Ethical Porn: What it isn’t.
Porn: love it or hate it, it’s here to stay. A lot of the commercial porn that’s out there exploits and objectifies its performers and encourages unhealthy stereotypes. While the compulsion to watch porn can sometimes turn into an unhealthy habit for some folks or lead to challenges in relationships or sexual expectations from partners, it can also be, like sex, fun, entertaining, arousing and also educational – if it’s ethical.
What IS ethical porn?
Unlike the stereotypical fare, “ethical” porn and ethical erotica (sometimes referred to as “fair trade porn”) celebrates body, racial, age, ethnic, sexual and gender diversity and often features real couples or, at the very least, porn actors who have full say in what they do, how they do it, and who they do it with. Another common characteristic of ethical porn? The performers are clearly, consensually enjoying themselves. Ethical porn puts the “fun” the “natural” and the ”real” back in sex, and it can be a great way to spice things up or learn new skills.
Where can I find ethical erotica?
Easy access to ethical porn is only a click away and often, you can go directly to the source. It’s not always free, but because it focuses on diversity, there’s something out there for nearly everyone. Many ethical porn performers are independent filmmakers with their own production companies, are performing with people they know and trust and sell their own work directly, so if you choose to support them with your dollars, you know exactly where your money’s going.
Tune in and turn on!
It’s date night! Go all out with it, whether you’re alone or with someone(s) else, and create an atmosphere conducive to sexy times both on-screen and off. Make sure everything you might need is within reach and that you’re in an environment where you can fully relax without interruption. If you’re looking for “ethical” places to start watching, here’s a shortlist of places to start!
- Make Love Not Porn
- Ageless Desire (DVD purchase)
- Shaving Ryan’s Privates
- XConfessions
- EroticFilms.com
- PinkLabel TV
- Bright Desire
- LustCinema
If you have questions or concerns or still can’t find what you’re looking for, get in touch. I can recommend several independent, ethical porn producers. I’m also here for you if you’re working with some challenges related to porn and have noticed yourself developing problematic behaviors that feel unmanageable or unhealthy to you; or if you need some gentle guidance on bringing the sexy back into your relationship. I can work with you in person, via phone or via Skype.