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Tantra or Porn – what’s your flavor?
Learning how to be intimate is a deep, rich and heart centered process of opening up vulnerability within oneself and with another. Porn on the other hand, offers a very different form of sexual gratification. What is your flavor? …
Nine Kinds of Vaginas
Who knew there were so many kinds of vaginas? “The best lovemaking begins with loving yourself” says Athena Lund, a healer and life coach from Boulder, Colorado, who focuses on sacred sexuality. Here, she explains the 9 types of vaginas as presented in the teachings of tantra. …
The Invention of Monogamy
Where did monogamy come from?
Monogamy has a long and very interesting history. Check out this well-researched comic series on The Nib from Isabela Rotman and Sarah Mirk about the invention of the concept and how it has been a part of many cultures around the world throughout history (or not!). …
Normalizing Sexuality: Permission to Be Ourselves
Sex is more satisfying and fun when you can show up fully as yourself and let go of worrying about what you look like or what you think you should look like in bed. This wonderful series of real photos highlights the natural beauty of women experiencing pleasure. Thanks to photographer Marcos Alberti and to all the women who participated. Permission to be ourselves! …
How to Have a Better Relationship
Got a few minutes? Set them aside and read this great article in the NY Times, “How to Have a Better Relationship”. Take some informative quizzes on your love style and where you fall on the passion spectrum and read some illuminating facts on how to improve your sex life and communication, and how to address conflict constructively so that it leaves you feeling even better about your partner! …
Single Ladies: Let’s Get Real About Sex Ed
So many women suffer shame, embarrassment, or lack of confidence during sexual encounters because we feel the pressure to perform like porn stars in the bedroom, without any support for our needs. Yes, we turn to our friends for margarita-fueled private conversations and we read self-help books and blogs. Perhaps, if we’re assertive, we broach a delicate topic with our doctors in the 30-second window they have for our “extra questions.” But real life situations take more time and care than your anonymous chat room buddies or a Buzzfeed slideshow can provide. …
The Post-Sex Afterglow
Research suggests that it takes 20 seconds for oxytocyn (the bonding hormone) to activate in our systems when we hug. This article from the Huffington Post says findings show that the post-sex afterglow created by the feel good hormones activated during sex and during an orgasm can last up to 48 hours. …
Gritty, Strong, Empowered Women: The New Trend in Stock Photography
Before becoming a Sex Therapist I used to work as a stock photography producer putting together shoots for Photographers. Getty’s TOP SELLING female images at that time were tagged with popular keywords such as sexy, beauty, beautiful and were represented by overwhelmingly caucasian women with blonde hair and a slim toned body.. This standard still dominates the mass media, and yet according to this recent article in the NY Times, the TOP SELLING female images on Getty today are of gritty, strong, empowered. I welcome your thoughts on this evolution! …
Common Reasons People See Sex Therapists
As a Sex intimacy and Relationship coach, one of my most frequently asked questions is what kind of challenges my clients most need help with? The most common concerns to date in my office are sexless relationships, erectile challenges, low desire, lack of sexual confidence and skills and the inability to ask for what you really want in the bedroom because often you don’t really know. …
San Francisco Magazine’s “Best of North Bay 2017”
Hello, Dr. Namita here, wishing you a wonderful summer! I was recently honored for outstanding work in the field of sex and intimacy coaching in San Francisco Magazine's "Best Of the North Bay 2017". Is it time for you to experience more pleasure in your life? Contact me to set up your complimentary consultation, and sign up to receive my fun,...