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Female Arousal: Desire Isn’t Always Spontaneous.
What exactly is “responsive sexual desire”? Basically, it’s sexual arousal that begins with erotic stimulation – and it turns out that, while spontaneous sexual desire (desire and then arousal) is the typical expectation, a large number of women have responsive sexual desire. Understanding this perfectly normal, healthy sexual response can be life-changing and relationship-saving. …
Bisexual or Pansexual: Is There a Difference?
If you’re attracted to more than one gender, you might call yourself bisexual or pansexual. What’s the difference? We’ve really put gender to the test in recent times, and as it turns out, it’s a social construct (unlike “sex”, which is assigned at birth, and based on the physical set of genitals a person is born with). So if you’re attracted to more than one gender, are you bisexual, or pansexual? Well, that depends. …
Good Sex That Lasts (for a Lifetime)
Our bodies and sexual relationships change over time, and how we work with what comes up has everything to do with creating a good sex life that can last a lifetime. Martha Kaupi of the Institute for Relational Intimacy emphasizes the tremendous value as an individual and as a couple of really honing the skills of communicating lovingly and effectively with each other. She also offers down to earth practical sexual advice – so you can see why I like it! …
Vagina or vulva? Some basic facts everyone should know.
Vagina or vulva? Believe it or not, these words aren’t interchangeable. It’s a common mistake made by many, vagina and vulva aren’t interchangeable words, despite the endless references. “Vagina” refers only to the vaginal canal, while “vulva” refers to the external genitals. Read on for 17 more important facts about the vulva (and the vagina) that everyone should know. …
Mutual Masturbation: Getting Yourself Off Together
Generally considered a solitary activity, indulging in some simultaneous self-love with a lover can be an incredibly intimate, sexy thing to do – and, you’ll probably learn some new things about your partner, and yourself! Read on for more on why mutual masturbation can be an amazingly hot thing to do together. …
Doing It OFF The Bed: Think Outside the Box!
Last week we talked about the best mattresses for sex, but what about having sex off the bed? Over 1000 people were surveyed about other places they have sex at home, with some very surprising statistics, such as having twice as much sex as those who limit it to the bedroom! …
Doing It On The Bed: The Best Mattress for Sex!
Are you in the market for a new bed? If you’re in or working toward creating partnership, you might want to read on before making a new bed purchase – the bed’s a fairly common sexual focal point for many couples, so here’s a whole list of things to take into consideration when choosing yours! …
Pain Free Sex with Cannabis Lube: Getting Your Vagina High
Whether for pleasure or pain management, combining cannabis and sex (and talking about it) is gaining momentum as legal access makes it more available to those who want to experiment with it. Users claim topically-applied cannabis relieves pain, assists in lubrication, helps them relax and helps many women achieve orgasms more easily (and, if countless testimonials are to be believed, much more intensely, with or without a partner). …
Size Matters: Great Sex with a Small Penis
Penis anxiety is a real thing, spurred by stereotypes, porn stars, and cultural references, and it’s no good for anyone. Here’s some practical advice on having great sex with a small penis. If anxiety around penis size is a challenge you face, give these tips a try, and, while I know it takes a lot of courage to consult a professional on such a sensitive, intimate topic, that’s what we’re here for – caring, non-judgmental, and absolutely practical advice, so you can get on with the business of great sex. …
How Infidelity Can Be Transformative
Esther Perel’s perspectives can be challenging and thought-provoking, for sure, but they’ve helped countless couples work through some of the more traumatic episodes of marital distress by looking at things like infidelity with a new and more holistic approach. This article on infidelity published in the New Yorker explains that approach so clearly, even pointing to the potential of beneficial growth opportunities and renewed relationship invigoration. …