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Sexual Shame Part Two: When People Harm Us
Sexual trauma can lead to sexual shame because of the association between sex and fear, confusion, secrecy, pain, and/or power. The toll this takes on healthy sexual self-expression and intimacy can feel deeply repressive and generate …
Sexual Shame Part One: When Systems Harm Us
Sexual shame is a feeling of deep responsibility combined with a sense of guilt associated with sexual activity or fantasy. Unaddressed sexual shame can lead to overly focusing inward in a negative way, problems with self-worth and intimacy; it can harm relationships, and in some cases can lead to acting out sexually. …
Kink
Whether you’re an experienced kinkster or as vanilla as they come, kink is a genre that is extremely popular and worth exploring. Whether Kink is part of your sexual template or not, the kink scene has a lot to teach us–not just about the wide array of sexual interests, flavors, fetishes & proclivities in the world, but about power, consent, and pleasure. …
Sex and Antidepressants
If you’re noticing negative side effects from your antidepressants, talk to your doctor but also to your partner about what you’re experiencing. Addressing the struggle so that you feel heard and understood is the first step in managing these side effects. …
Libido and Arousal
How often do you want to have sex? Our desire for sexual frequency runs the gamut. Some folks plan a specific number of sexual experiences every week, some just want to enjoy it more spontaneously when the mood arises, some rarely want to have sex and some are not interested in having sex at all. …
Good Sex During and After Menopause
Menopause is a time of transition in a woman’s life and brings forth a season of maturity and newness, and, likely, a few challenges. Everyone goes through it on their own timeline and effects can vary greatly. While some may experience challenges sexually, …
Sexting 101
Of all the many uses we have for our devices, one of the “hottest” is possibly the practice of Sexting! Sexting helps “build your simmer,” by creatively expanding foreplay using your imagination and fantasy to build up that delicious sexual tension we crave through digital communication. …
Exploring Bisexuality
As we enter into a monthlong celebration of the diversities of love, let’s explore one of the more overlooked identities of the queer community: The Bisexual. Are you bi? Do you think you might be? If you’re questioning, good for you! Just being able to open up to new possibilities …
Asexuality
“Asexual” simply means that you don’t experience sexual attraction towards other people. This does not mean that asexuals (aces) don’t have the desire to be in a partnered relationship though! We are all uniquely wired for love and attraction. Asexual partnerships are just as meaningful as sexual ones, and love can be given and received in countless ways. …
Sex and Motherhood
The word “Mother” is often connected to a myriad of personal experiences, associations and general beliefs. As with so much in life, balance in your role as a mother is key to tapping into the authentic you. Part of this balance is not ignoring your desires. You have hopes, goals, dreams, and yes, also a sex-drive! Let me share some helpful tips on allowing your sexuality to flourish… …