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Sex and Disability, Part One
We all desire pleasure and depending on your physical ability, you might consider pleasure as more or less accessible to you. When sexual pleasure feels out of reach because of a physical hindrance, it can be deflating to your confidence. But remember this: It is 100% normal for anyone and everyone to need accommodations during sex. …
Halloween Sex
Dressing up for sexual encounters can be sexy and seductive, and novelty is a powerful tool to include in your sex life. When you’re in a long term relationship, switching things up helps keep it fresh and decreases the possibility of falling into routine. Instead of simply switching positions or settings, costumes allow us …
Kiss Kiss
Ever wonder why humans are drawn to smooching? If you think too hard about it, it can start to seem like a strange behavior, but putting your mouth, face, nose, forehead, and cheeks up against your intimate partner is written all over our genetic code. So much happens… …
Sexual Shame Part Two: When People Harm Us
Sexual trauma can lead to sexual shame because of the association between sex and fear, confusion, secrecy, pain, and/or power. The toll this takes on healthy sexual self-expression and intimacy can feel deeply repressive and generate …
Sexual Shame Part One: When Systems Harm Us
Sexual shame is a feeling of deep responsibility combined with a sense of guilt associated with sexual activity or fantasy. Unaddressed sexual shame can lead to overly focusing inward in a negative way, problems with self-worth and intimacy; it can harm relationships, and in some cases can lead to acting out sexually. …
Kink
Whether you’re an experienced kinkster or as vanilla as they come, kink is a genre that is extremely popular and worth exploring. Whether Kink is part of your sexual template or not, the kink scene has a lot to teach us–not just about the wide array of sexual interests, flavors, fetishes & proclivities in the world, but about power, consent, and pleasure. …
Sex and Antidepressants
If you’re noticing negative side effects from your antidepressants, talk to your doctor but also to your partner about what you’re experiencing. Addressing the struggle so that you feel heard and understood is the first step in managing these side effects. …
Libido and Arousal
How often do you want to have sex? Our desire for sexual frequency runs the gamut. Some folks plan a specific number of sexual experiences every week, some just want to enjoy it more spontaneously when the mood arises, some rarely want to have sex and some are not interested in having sex at all. …
Good Sex During and After Menopause
Menopause is a time of transition in a woman’s life and brings forth a season of maturity and newness, and, likely, a few challenges. Everyone goes through it on their own timeline and effects can vary greatly. While some may experience challenges sexually, …
Sexting 101
Of all the many uses we have for our devices, one of the “hottest” is possibly the practice of Sexting! Sexting helps “build your simmer,” by creatively expanding foreplay using your imagination and fantasy to build up that delicious sexual tension we crave through digital communication. …