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Ethical Porn: What is it, and where can you find it?
Unlike the stereotypical fare, “ethical” porn (sometimes referred to as “fair trade porn”) celebrates body, racial, age, ethnic, sexual and gender diversity and often features real couples or, at the very least, porn actors who have full say in what they do, how they do it, and who they do it with. Another common characteristic of ethical porn? The performers are clearly, consensually enjoying themselves. Ethical porn puts the “fun” the “natural” and the ”real” back in sex, and it can be a great way to spice things up or learn new skills. …
It’s not the size of the boat…
Media, especially porn, promotes the idea that women are “size queens” and that only men with extremely large penises can have great sex or pleasure a woman, and I’m here to tell you, this simply isn’t true. Porn, as well as mainstream media, can promote unhealthy unrealistic standards for both men and women, but the reality is the variety in human bodies is endless, and with the right knowledge, a healthy sex life can be had by many. …
Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy
There are a lot of assumptions about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, but scientists are starting to take a much closer look and the research results are revealing quite a bit. These relationships aren’t as common as monogamous relationships but there are a growing number of people who find fulfillment and satisfaction in them and it’s redefining how many of us relate. …
When will you have the best sex of your life?
While great sex can be had at any age, studies show that there is, indeed, an age when many people find they’re having the best sex they’ve ever had. …
New Discoveries About Male Desire
We often want to assume that men are constantly turned on and ready to go, that their sexuality is separate from their desires to be intimate and feel a sense of connection, and this couldn’t be further from the truth. Turns out there’s a lot more emotion involved than what we often attribute to men, and they want us to know. …
Sex and Pregnancy: More to Love!
Sex is generally safe during pregnancy, though you might need to make some adjustments. When you’re pregnant, your body goes through a whole host of physical and hormonal changes, and this can affect how you and your partner have sex. Never fear, most of these changes are normal aspects of pregnancy and easily worked with. …
The Gender Spectrum
You may have heard the terms transgender, transmasculine/feminine, gender fluid, gender queer, and others like them – these are words many people who don’t find into the male/female gender binary often use to describe themselves. Although Western culture is changing, we’re still getting to a place where everyone can be and express who they are. This can be a tough environment for those who find themselves here, especially for those transitioning into a different gender expression who are learning where they fit in and maybe even working with a brand new body. …
Edging for Men: Increase Your Vitality and Staying Power
Learning to edge can provide more intense orgasms, but perhaps the most important benefit for both men and women is that it allows you to really get in touch with your own arousal cycles and develop sexual self-awareness. Last week we talked about edging and its benefits for women, but learning to “edge” also has specific benefits for men, especially if you’re working with challenges like premature ejaculation. If you can learn to become more aware of your arousal cycles, you’ll eventually have much better control over them and increase your staying power. …
Edging for Women: Make Good Sex Even Better!
What is it, and what can it do for you? It might sound a little bit like (delicious) torture, but edging, the practice of bringing yourself just to the brink of orgasm and then stopping yourself (yes, you read that correctly) can make for more intense, explosive, incredible orgasms when you finally do let go. But, it does take some practice to get yourself to the edge without going over. Here are some beginning tips for getting started. …
It’s time for SF Pride – let’s celebrate!
San Francisco’s Pride Parade, one of the oldest and largest in the world, is this weekend, and as always it’s going to be an incredible time! What’s Pride all about? …