I think I might be gay. Now what? It takes courage to explore your sexuality, and sometimes I see clients who begin exploring theirs later in life – questioning if, perhaps, they might be gay or lesbian, or find they’re bi-curious and don’t know how to go about...
What is Negative Meaning-Making? Negative meaning-making is exactly what it says it is – making negative meanings out of things that happen. This can have detrimental effects on your relationship with yourself and can also deeply impact your relationships with...
What is Surrogate Partner Therapy? Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT) is a form of experiential hands-on therapy facilitated by a professionally-trained caring practitioner (a surrogate partner) who works with clients encountering challenges with sexuality and intimacy....
This past fall I traveled in London to work with a couple on a bespoke, weeklong retreat. I also filmed this in-depth interview with Flexible Films about my work – in it I discuss how I became a sex coach, what kinds of things you can expect when we work...
Getting Into Spanking? Communication is KEY. Recently, I was contacted by Men’s Health magazine for some tips on spanking. Apparently, 25% of Americans fantasize about it, but if you’re looking to bring spanking into your sex life, you will want to...
Really? Yes, really. Male and female sexuality are very, very similar in so many ways. The common thought is that men and women have very different approaches to sexuality, but this isn’t always the case. In fact, there are lots of similarities between male and...
Female arousal and desire: sometimes it’s spontaneous, and sometimes it’s responsive. For women who have responsive sexual desire (which is an extraordinarily large number), it can be really important that they feel sexually desired. If the woman doesn’t...
Good sex that lasts a lifetime? It’s possible. I had the pleasure of meeting Martha Kauppi, renowned sex therapist and founder of Madison Wisconsin’s Institute for Relational Intimacy recently when I attended the 2018 Couples Conference here in the Bay,...
Mutual Masturbation? Yep – especially during National Masturbation Month! National Masturbation Month was begun in San Francisco, America’s most sex-positive city, back in 1999. Put into effect by Good Vibrations, it was originally a response to the forced...
Sex off the bed! …Here are some statistics to behold! Last week we talked about the best mattresses for sex, but what about having sex off the bed? Over 1000 people were surveyed about other places they have sex other than their bedroom. This survey produced...
What’s the best mattress for sex? Recently, Mattress Insider contacted me and several of my peers to find out what we considered the best qualities a bed should have for great sex. Most of us are on the same page with the basics: (mattress) size matters, as does...
It’s not just for pleasure, but wow, the pleasure. Last month, I introduced readers to Ashley Manta, who coined the term “Cannasexual” for people who use cannabis to enhance their sex lives. With an aim toward removing stigmas and opening minds,...
To subscribe to my blog, simply enter your email address and be the first to read all my upcoming articles. I occasionally send out a newsletter with events and media happenings. Stay tuned for new exciting articles every month!
Learn how to make your relationship feel vibrant, connected and sexy again with your fun, free step by step Touch Guide to reclaiming intimacy, (butterflies included!)
