I think I might be gay. Now what? It takes courage to explore your sexuality, and sometimes I see clients who begin exploring theirs later in life – questioning if, perhaps, they might be gay or lesbian, or find they’re bi-curious and don’t know how to go about...
Your body loves you On Thanksgiving, many of us will prepare and sit down to a delicious feast, yet some of us will feel regretful afterward, deliberately avoiding the scale and bathroom mirror until after the New Year’s resolutions begin. So many of us are unkind to...
What is Negative Meaning-Making? Negative meaning-making is exactly what it says it is – making negative meanings out of things that happen. This can have detrimental effects on your relationship with yourself and can also deeply impact your relationships with...
Surprising Facts About Polyamory While not for everyone, polyamory (loving or being romantically involved with more than one person at a time) is becoming more accepted and embraced in many places, and it’s a topic that sometimes comes up when I work with...
Sexy nurse… sexy police officer… sexy kitty… sexy school girl… sexy Yoda? (yes it’s out there!) If you do a quick google search for sexy Halloween costumes you’ll receive results like “sexy Mrs. potato head” and “sexy Barney the purple dinosaur.” Each year it...
This past fall I traveled in London to work with a couple on a bespoke, weeklong retreat. I also filmed this in-depth interview with Flexible Films about my work – in it I discuss how I became a sex coach, what kinds of things you can expect when we work...
The importance of romance in relationships cannot be overstated. “My wife and I need to remember to look at each other like that.” Yes, relationships can get bogged down with the minutiae of everyday life – it’s a common relationship affliction...
Good sex that lasts a lifetime? It’s possible. I had the pleasure of meeting Martha Kauppi, renowned sex therapist and founder of Madison Wisconsin’s Institute for Relational Intimacy recently when I attended the 2018 Couples Conference here in the Bay,...
Mutual Masturbation? Yep – especially during National Masturbation Month! National Masturbation Month was begun in San Francisco, America’s most sex-positive city, back in 1999. Put into effect by Good Vibrations, it was originally a response to the forced...
Sex off the bed! …Here are some statistics to behold! Last week we talked about the best mattresses for sex, but what about having sex off the bed? Over 1000 people were surveyed about other places they have sex other than their bedroom. This survey produced...
What’s the best mattress for sex? Recently, Mattress Insider contacted me and several of my peers to find out what we considered the best qualities a bed should have for great sex. Most of us are on the same page with the basics: (mattress) size matters, as does...
Esther Perel offers a different way to look at a painful thing. Esther Perel, psychotherapist and couples’ therapist, has never tiptoed around deeper or more painful subjects of relationships and sexuality. With a focus on connecting the domestic and the erotic,...
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