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Setting Healthy Sexual Boundaries (Part 1)
Our boundaries are going to vary from week to week, day to day, moment to moment. What might have been okay yesterday may not be okay today. It’s all about developing the ability to express what you’re open to and available for in a sexual situation. What you and your body might be in the mood for in that moment. It’s also about noticing what you’re not open to and to know that it’s your right to change your mind! YES, that’s right, you get to change your mind. It’s your body and you get to choose… …
Gratitude Season
No matter how this season is beginning for you, the practices of self-love and gratitude can make all the difference in how we approach and move through this season of celebration. …
The Basics of Power Play
Power play actually exists in every relationship, whether we’re conscious of it or not. Power play here, however, refers to the popular BDSM practice of dominance and submission. Consent is the key aspect of conscious power play and requires advanced levels of communication as well as trust and safety. …
What is Tantric Sex?
While we usually think of, well, sex, when we hear the words “Tantric sex”, there’s a lot more to it! It’s also a practice of communication which places far more focus on deep, present, loving connection and energetic exchange than the actual, physical, penetrative act of sex. Tantric sex practices can be experienced alone or with a partner and they are a profound way of getting more deeply in touch with yourself, with your partner and with your body. …
Adult Fun for Halloween: Reactivating Your Erotic Imagination
Halloween provides the perfect opportunity for stepping out –wearing a sexy costume, playing a role, acting out fun scenarios, and taking on a persona that you might otherwise be too shy or self-conscious to explore. And, it doesn’t have to be limited to Halloween. You can use this holiday as the doorway to tapping into your sexy creativity throughout the year! …
Moving Through Menopause
Menopause is a breeze for some and far from it for others. It’s important to consult with your medical professional to make sure you have up to date information and support. This doesn’t mean that every woman will need medical treatment for menopause. For some, the onset of perimenopause or menopause is easily manageable with self-care techniques and supplements, and the relationship challenges that may come up can be easily addressed with good communication or with the help of professional advice. …
Getting Over it: How to Recover from an Affair
For a lot of people, when they discover their significant other has been having an affair, it’s a devastation they think they’ll never recover from. Many people see it as the immediate end of their relationship and in some ways, it actually is. Betrayal is painful, to be sure, but as Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., says, “it is possible to create something new and beautiful in the wake of tragedy. Devastation can be an opportunity to bring more intentionality and commitment to a relationship.” …
Ethical Porn: What is it, and where can you find it?
Unlike the stereotypical fare, “ethical” porn (sometimes referred to as “fair trade porn”) celebrates body, racial, age, ethnic, sexual and gender diversity and often features real couples or, at the very least, porn actors who have full say in what they do, how they do it, and who they do it with. Another common characteristic of ethical porn? The performers are clearly, consensually enjoying themselves. Ethical porn puts the “fun” the “natural” and the ”real” back in sex, and it can be a great way to spice things up or learn new skills. …
It’s not the size of the boat…
Media, especially porn, promotes the idea that women are “size queens” and that only men with extremely large penises can have great sex or pleasure a woman, and I’m here to tell you, this simply isn’t true. Porn, as well as mainstream media, can promote unhealthy unrealistic standards for both men and women, but the reality is the variety in human bodies is endless, and with the right knowledge, a healthy sex life can be had by many. …
Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy
There are a lot of assumptions about polyamory and ethical non-monogamy, but scientists are starting to take a much closer look and the research results are revealing quite a bit. These relationships aren’t as common as monogamous relationships but there are a growing number of people who find fulfillment and satisfaction in them and it’s redefining how many of us relate. …