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New Year, new you?
With all that’s happening in the world right now, focusing on ourselves may not feel like the most important thing we can do, but our ability to experience and share pleasure, both non-sexual and sexual, is directly related to the amount of happiness in our lives. Happiness is wonderful in and of itself, and it’s also great fuel for achieving other dreams and goals in our lives! …
Spelling Out the Language of Love
Author and speaker Esther Perel, who speaks nine languages, believes that love is “dynamic and active. Imbued with intention and responsibility. And it is a verb” — and that verbs are generally the first thing we learn when learning a new language. She believes the answers to how we learn to love (and how we develop our own love languages) can be found in seven verbs, and that examining them as adults we can see where our weaknesses lie and what triggers our defense mechanisms, and through this process we can grow in intimacy. …
Reconnecting During the Holiday Season
The holiday season is an invitation for joyous connection, and it’s also a busy time for many of us. When we’re so busy with social engagements, we might actually lose sight of what’s really most important – truly staying connected with ourselves, and with our intimate partners. For some, self-care during this time is even more important. …
Setting Healthy Sexual Boundaries (Part 1)
Our boundaries are going to vary from week to week, day to day, moment to moment. What might have been okay yesterday may not be okay today. It’s all about developing the ability to express what you’re open to and available for in a sexual situation. What you and your body might be in the mood for in that moment. It’s also about noticing what you’re not open to and to know that it’s your right to change your mind! YES, that’s right, you get to change your mind. It’s your body and you get to choose… …
Gratitude Season
No matter how this season is beginning for you, the practices of self-love and gratitude can make all the difference in how we approach and move through this season of celebration. …
The Basics of Power Play
Power play actually exists in every relationship, whether we’re conscious of it or not. Power play here, however, refers to the popular BDSM practice of dominance and submission. Consent is the key aspect of conscious power play and requires advanced levels of communication as well as trust and safety. …
What is Tantric Sex?
While we usually think of, well, sex, when we hear the words “Tantric sex”, there’s a lot more to it! It’s also a practice of communication which places far more focus on deep, present, loving connection and energetic exchange than the actual, physical, penetrative act of sex. Tantric sex practices can be experienced alone or with a partner and they are a profound way of getting more deeply in touch with yourself, with your partner and with your body. …
Adult Fun for Halloween: Reactivating Your Erotic Imagination
Halloween provides the perfect opportunity for stepping out –wearing a sexy costume, playing a role, acting out fun scenarios, and taking on a persona that you might otherwise be too shy or self-conscious to explore. And, it doesn’t have to be limited to Halloween. You can use this holiday as the doorway to tapping into your sexy creativity throughout the year! …
Moving Through Menopause
Menopause is a breeze for some and far from it for others. It’s important to consult with your medical professional to make sure you have up to date information and support. This doesn’t mean that every woman will need medical treatment for menopause. For some, the onset of perimenopause or menopause is easily manageable with self-care techniques and supplements, and the relationship challenges that may come up can be easily addressed with good communication or with the help of professional advice. …
Getting Over it: How to Recover from an Affair
For a lot of people, when they discover their significant other has been having an affair, it’s a devastation they think they’ll never recover from. Many people see it as the immediate end of their relationship and in some ways, it actually is. Betrayal is painful, to be sure, but as Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., says, “it is possible to create something new and beautiful in the wake of tragedy. Devastation can be an opportunity to bring more intentionality and commitment to a relationship.” …